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[EugenicHegemony]

Do you think the older you get, the harder it is to admit the mistakes you have made in the course of your life?

[apatheticone]

You have posed a subjective question.
A simple yes or no does not apply to each and every one of us.
Some of us become responsible adults with a conscience and compassion toward others.
Some never grow up or become responsible. They stay in the same patterns or systems all of their lives and wonder why they are not achieving any sense of self or happiness in their lives. Being dependent is the worst feeling a person can experience. Some are aware and others choose not to be aware and allow others to "take care of whatever they don't want to do". The dependent person thinks they have control of their own life and decisions, however, they fail to see their dependence makes them lose that control. They are manipulated and victimized and then become persecutors for the injustices they feel have fallen on them. This creates a vicious cycle that carries on throughout one's life and usually the family they are part of a system with.
If one was to truly examine the events in a realistic light they would be able to put together what and why they have allowed themselves to become dependent. When a person takes responsibility for EVERYTHING they do in their life and deals with whatever consequences may result that is when independence is realized. That is when one GROWS UP. Learning is a process.
Staying the same in a different situation is staying the same and not facing truth or reality. Esacaping into other lives or problems is escape. It does not create responsibility.

Aging has nothing to do with admitting ones mistakes. Some mistakes are just learning experiences and not mistakes at all. Deliberate negative actions towards other human beings is always a mistake. If you have any belief system at all you might understand that there are no mistakes in this life. Regrets are for fools. Memories serve one better. There will be good and bad memories from childhood and adulthood. Learning from mistakes is paramount to becoming a better human being.
Being a decent human being with integrity is key to your own happiness. Only you can create happiness in your life. If you choose people to share your life with in any way they cannot be expected to live up to your standards or belief systems. Expect nothing from anyone and you will not experience disappointment.Anger is just love disappointed.
It is better to have loved and lost love than to never have loved at all. A true love is never forgotten or regretted or a mistake regardless of how it ends.
I personally haev had the good fortune to have experienced true love twice in my life. One of my loves was lost in a plane crash, but the love has never been forgotten.
The second love is still strong in my heart and it keeps me going every day of my life when I think about the wonderful memories.I am not an eloquent writer and my head takes me in different directions, so please forgive me if I have rambled.

It takes a big person to admit they may have been wrong and it has nothing to do with age.
Stubborness maybe or unwillingness to see truth.
Does this make any sense to you?
Does it answer your question in any way?

[Mad_Michael]

I think apatheticone's reply is a damn good one.

Though the thoughts conveyed are anti-thetical to that user's name. ;)

As for the question itself, I'll only note that many people tend to become generally more subborn as they grow older and may perhaps on that basis, have increasing difficulty admitting their own mistakes.

Indeed, a lifetime of living with one's own mistakes can make you even forget that you made them - and maybe, just maybe, they were not mistakes after all...

[Robin Hood]

I agree with apathetic one, it depends on the person. Except for one thing, as one gets older and the old mistakes are less easily corrected, it might become harder to admit them because it invalidates more of one's existence. The cost of it being a mistake is higher, and so it is less liekly to be admitted. The opposite can also be true, though.

[leftneckredwing]

For myself, I find it easier to admit mistakes as soon as I discover them. The baggage is too heavy to carry, unload it and it's over.

[Snarf]

EugenicHegemony wrote: Do you think the older you get, the harder it is to admit the mistakes you have made in the course of your life?
Much easier actually. The WTF version of I'll be dead and gone and no one will give a damn kicks in, especially after 40. Let's face it, the Earth goes away at some point and none of this really matters, so why worry about it.

Impose your reality, drink up, and laugh as much as you can, including at yourself...

[Fiscal_Conservative]

EugenicHegemony wrote: Do you think the older you get, the harder it is to admit the mistakes you have made in the course of your life?

Not at all. But if you do, you probably haven't learnt much from life.

[The Ferryman]

It's easier to admit mistakes. Another way of viewing mistakes are as 'bad outcomes'. There's no shame in making bad outcomes, but of course there's some guilt. Guilt is about doing, shame is about being: a big difference.

[Jesucristo]

Yes. Take religion, for instance: what person is going to abandon their religion at 70? Might as well stay the course at that point.

[EugenicHegemony]

Here's a cool poem...

Quote: October 14, 2005 at 2:26 AM

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IF I KNEW
In memory of all those who perished this on 9/11; the passengers and the pilots on the United Air and AA flights, the workers in the World Trade Center and the Pentagon, and all the innocent bystanders. Our prayers go out to the friends and families of the deceased...
> >
> >IF I KNEW
> >
> >If I knew it would be the last time
> >That I'd see you fall asleep,
> >I would tuck you in more tightly
> >and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
> >
> >If I knew it would be the last time
> >that I see you walk out the door,
> >I would give you a hug and kiss
> >and call you back for one more.
> >
> >If I knew it would be the last time
> >I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
> >I would video tape each action and word,
> >so I could play them back day after day.
> >
> >If I knew it would be the last time,
> >I could spare an extra minute
> >to stop and say "I love you,"
> >instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.
> >
> >If I knew it would be the last time
> >I would be there to share your day,
> >Well I'm sure you'll have so mn more,
> >so I can let just this one slip away.
> >
> >For surely there's always tomorrow
> >to make up for an oversight,
> >and we always get a second chance
> >to make everything just right.
> >
> >There will always be another day
> >to say "I love you,"
> >And certainly there's another chance
> >to say our "Anything I can do?"
> >
> >But just in case I might be wrong,
> >and today is all I get,
> >I'd like to say how much I love you
> >and I hope we never forget.
> >
> >Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
> >young or old alike,
> >And today may be the last chance
> >you get to hold your loved one tight.
> >
> >So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
> >why not do it today?
> >For if tomorrow never came, you'll surely regret the day,
> >
> >That you didn't take that extra time
> >for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
> >and you were too busy to grant someone,
> >what turned out to be their one last wish.
> >
> >So hold your loved ones close today,
> >and whisper in their ear,
> >Tell them how much you love them
> >and that you'll always hold them dear
> >
> >Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
> >"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
> >And if tomorrow never comes,
> >you'll have no regrets about today.